540: How do you KNOW?

When there is a decision to be made, how do you know which of the available options to choose? HOW do you know? HOW are you sure? HOW do you know which option among the possible options is the best one to choose? HOW do you know that you are not making a mistake?

The fact is, you don’t know.

You can make the best possible choice among the available options, and still have things absolutely blow up in your face. You can make a very poor choice, and God can still arrange things to turn out right in the end, anyway. You might be the committed one, honest, and sincere in thought, word, and deed. If the other person (people) are not of the same commitment, something that is entirely beyond your control, BTW, things stand a very good chance of not working out positively.

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The cruel fact is, you don’t know. Life was never promised to be fair, equitable, acknowledging of your efforts, or affirming. Happiness is not promised. Fulfillment as an individual is not promised, either.

So – do you give up? Many do.

Giving up looks attractive, especially after yet another major defeat. Giving up guarantees one thing – you won’t win. You have to be in the game to win. You can’t win if you sit it out. Plus, realize that not everyone who is in the game wins.

If fulfillment is your goal, you must be stubborn as a mule and not give up. Even when you are slapped down once again, you cannot, ever, never give up. Be the ethical and moral person that you know yourself to be and keep going. Rest when you must. Recharge your spent batteries. But don’t quit.

How do you know you’ve won? Making peace with all that went before is one clear indicator. Being at peace with yourself is another.

 

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15 thoughts on “540: How do you KNOW?

  1. Reblogged this on HarsH ReaLiTy and commented:
    I base all decisions upon the answers given by my trusty 8 ball! It never fails! -OM
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    • Thanks, Jason. Best wishes on your own decisions – and it is so wonderful to see some new posts from you. Courage and wisdom – and a goodly helping of donkey-strength stubbornness. You rock, dude.

  2. Great post. Giving up insures that you won’t win, true, and not winning is an open invitation to print a back stage pass to one’s own pity party, which is the end game for far too many folks.

  3. “You might be the committed one, honest, and sincere in thought, word, and deed. If the other person (people) are not of the same commitment, something that is entirely beyond your control, BTW, things stand a very good chance of not working out positively.”

    Exactly!

  4. I trust my ‘gut’ and it is correct more often than it is wrong. However, you are correct when you point out that many times, the things we think will be fabulous, if they happen can happen and turn out to be the very worst thing. And vice-versa.

    • We make the best choices we can given the knowledge and circumstances at the time. That is all anyone can do – their best. Thanks for stopping by today.

  5. Somebody once said that life is the ultimate “Masters” course. It often times gives the test first, and lesson afterwards.

    There’s nothing wrong with blowing the test (often tiems we will). What is wrong is not to take heed to the lesson afterwards.

  6. If you did know, it wouldn’t be a decision any more – except for a point you rather gloss over, that it could be a choice over values rather than what will work. If I’m driving and suddenly an out-of-control car comes careering towards me, I have a choice – swerve left, swerve right, brake – but there is no doubt what I’m trying to achieve. On the other hand, a choice between two career paths may be as much about what I like or what I believe in as about which one would be most “successful” – because in reality there is plenty of room for argument about what constitutes success.

    • And which career choice will ultimately prove the best choice for you? You do the best you can when you choose. The same with issues with people, from disciplining a child effectively and humanely, or which person will make a spouse you can have a decent chance to grow old with – you make the best choices that you can, given all the variables.

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